Be Awesome Instead is by no means a dating blog (at least not at the moment). However, after the overwhelming response from Dealbreakers post last week, I think you all deserve an update, in more than the 140 characters allowed on Twitter.
Roughly 97% of you, I calculated (ha! yeah right), said to give the Non-Sports-Liking-Guy (NSLG) a chance, basically because not liking the same thing should not be a dealbreaker. Trust me, I heard you all! I then over-thought the idea of what it would be like. How do you talk to a guy who doesn't know jack about sports? What will he think about me planning my social calendar around the Cuse games coming up? Where does the good banter come from? What would my parents think if I brought home a guy who doesn't watch football? Ok, I didn't actually think about the last one, I never bring guys home to meet my parents. Of course, this was much easier not to do while living on the east coast and the ones I've dated here don't last long enough.
Anyissues, in the end, I decided to let things play out.
The tentative plan (made through text, because guys don't call anymore) was to meet at the park near my house this past weekend depending on the weather. Last Thursday he sent me a text asking about my week and if I was looking forward to the pub crawl the next day (uh-duh?). My response after intentionally waiting 3 hours, since I'm just that busy: "Week has been a bit insane it's a good thing I like my job! Definitely gonna need some alcohol tomorrow, should be a good time."
I went to the pub crawl the following night, enjoyed myself thoroughly and realized how much I enjoy flirting with British soccer players (accents and athletes are my weakness), among others. Have you heard of Das Boot? Apparently they drink beer out of random peeps' "Wellies" in the bars across the pond. Gross?
At some point in the evening, one of the girls on the crawl asked about NSLG, having seen us together the weekend before. Only then did I realize he never replied after I expressed my need for alcohol (and nothing over the weekend). Clearly I wasn't actually interested AND he appears to have his own dealbreakers, girls who like alcohol*. Sweet, now I don't have to stress about having "The Talk," and I can continue to flirt with other people without him commenting (he did the first night...hello, red flag). Problem Solved!
*Disclaimer: I'm guessing the typical male does not have this same dealbreaker
There might be some changes happening here in the next couple days, if you see anything funky, don't be alarmed.
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Rad. And I say rad to your ostensible alcoholism and rad to everyone telling you to not worry about it so much. It will all work out. You are a one-woman Seinfeld episode! :)
The sports thing might not be a dealbreaker, but if he doesn't like girls who drink, that definitely is!
It's those funkie happenings that become the dealbreakers in life!... Can't wait...
Okay, I was one of the people that said to give him a chance. I take it back. Obviously he can't deal with your awesomeness and doesn't deserve you anyway.
Yeah he seems way lamer now that he didn't text you back. What guy doesn't like drunk girls and sports? That's just too weird.
Just read the title first and thought "act like an alcoholic" meant explaining your actions by claiming you were drunk. May I say, that also works.
There is definitely a problem if the guy doesn't want a girl that likes alcohol. I mean, I want a man that can drink. How else are you going to have nights of wild, crazy, drunk sex if you don't drink?
Ok f these women above me in the comment box. Not literally, but if you really want to, I won't say a thing.
First off, a dude who doesn't like sports AND doesn't like alcohol can only lead to more shit he ain't a fan of. That, and that also tells me right away that chances are, he's too much drama and BING that's why his ass is single.
Stay away.
And?
Consult me in your next endeavor. I know how these dudes think. Remember. I am one.
Can your new deal breaker now be that he has a stupid deal breaker? I think it can. You win!
Well at least it worked out so you wouldn't have to have the awkward talk.
Well, you know, at least you gave it a shot. And a girl that doesn't like alcohol??? Good luck finding her!
You did give it a fair shot... but yea, time to move on (to some cute British soccer players!).
Oh well. Fun while it lasted, hopefully?? I'm glad you were spared of having the awkward conversation, those are the WORST!
hahahaha awesomesauce
That settles it.
He's gay.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Ok, am I the only sane person here!??! Do I need to point out the obvious?!? I was one of those that said deal breakers need to be important things, not dumb things like whether he likes sports or not. One of those important things is: GUYS WHO CANT USE THE GODDAM PHONE TO TALK TO YOU IN PERSON!!!! Now THAT is grounds for a deal breaker.
Think about it: you care so much about whether this guy likes sports or not, but it doesnt seem to bother you that he wont put in one ounce of effort (a PHONE CALL) to talk to you? Are you serious!?!?! Sports is a priority over how HE TREATS YOU and VALUES YOU!!? REALLY!?!? Do you see where I am going with this!!?!
I say this not because I am a bitch, I say it as a girl who spent alot of years making poor choices, until I finally saw the light!! Haha!!
If a guy likes you he will find a way to make that phone call. He will. And why would you settle for anything less?
Jesus Jaime. Did Lola (her pug) piss in your Cheerios this morning?
I mean your right, but I can just imagine you flailing your arms and rolling your eyes a lot.
You need to come over and Wii with us again. I'll text you.
Bahahahahaha.
I was willing to overlook the whole no sports thing, but not into chicks who drink AND commenting on your flirting?
This guy's a dude minus the "e".
He didn't get back to you?
Screw him
Just catching-up with blogs today (instead of working), and hate it when guys do dumb stuff like that. But I guess everything has a way of working out. Right?
I say enjoy being single. And screw dating these guys. Just be friends and if more happens, great. If not, then oh well. NEXT! I joke to my friends about the men in my life. “Serving 154, 155 ,156…please step forward”. And when I’m done with them… “Serving 157, 158, 158…please step forward”.
Good luck with your journey. I don’t know how behind I am on your blog and about any history I’m not aware of. Be regardless, don’t feel alone on this journey called the “Dating Game”. The guys who know how to play don’t usually want to play with me. And the ones who are clueless of how to play always want to play with me. I can’t win. So, I guess that’s why I don’t date much. Well, there’s more to that story. But enough about you, let’s talk about me some more.
New reader alert! I just HAD to say I HATE that most convos with guys are through text nowadays! Guys don't have to have guts or even a commitment to a full phone conversation anymore *grrrrr*
Awesome blog! Looking forward to more!
New reader too! What a stupid reason to just ignore a person! And for a man, that's a weird dealbreaker, he would've probably been a bore anyway by the sounds of it, no sports, no alcohol, what else does he dissaprove of! A real man can handle a girl who likes having a drink.
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